Most people who know us both thought that Richard & I were going out about 6 months before we actually did. Sometimes I think someone mentioning this earlier could have saved me a lot of stress. Except then, I wouldn't have had the whole personal growth experience of realising I was in love with two people at the same time and realising that meant I was poly.

I rarely look back in hindsight and wish things had gone a different way. The only real exception is my last relationship that I referred to above. I broke every single rule in my book to try to keep the relationship, and then I wondered why it kept going more and more wrong? I was pretty much borderline psychotic for some of it, making very bad paranoid decisions. Given the chance, I would certainly not make those mistakes again.