first of all bunnys Did the waitress come towards you form the side so you saw her out of the corner of your eye? Becos that's much more likley to make a person startle. It doesn't matter if the commimg towards you person is non-threatening it's to do with how you process what you are seeing. We don't give people long explanations about why we startel so easyly we just say "o you suprised me" or "i'm a bit jumpy at the moment" and mostly people are nice. The worst thing is if after startleing you they touch you to be reassuring and make it worse! (this does happen) then i just run away.
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Did the waitress come towards you form the side so you saw her out of the corner of your eye? Becos that's much more likley to make a person startle. It doesn't matter if the commimg towards you person is non-threatening it's to do with how you process what you are seeing.
We don't give people long explanations about why we startel so easyly we just say "o you suprised me" or "i'm a bit jumpy at the moment" and mostly people are nice. The worst thing is if after startleing you they touch you to be reassuring and make it worse! (this does happen) then i just run away.