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The Seven Year Gap
Hooray, I've been on Tumblr a matter of days and I've managed to have a huge argument with someone. They were posting about why certain Ace Attorney ships are evil, bad and wrong.
I was pointing out that actually, a 7 year age gap isn't all that much of a thing depending on what age the two people get together. Like 17 and 24 is definitely iffy (the ages the characters are in the first AA game) but what if the same two people don't get together until 28 and 35 (the ages they are in the sixth game)?
And they're all "IT'S ABOUT PROTECTING TEENS FROM PREDATORY ADULTS".
And I was saying "What if it's the younger person doing the chasing? Don't kinkshame people based on your own personal squick."
But apparently "If they met when one of them was a child and one of them was an adult, that’s using the tactic pedophiles use of “I’ll wait for you.”"
I kissed a 23 year old when I was 16, and we went on one date. (He then proceeded to distance himself from me because he realised I wasn't mature enough for a relationship, even though 16 is the age of consent here.) My friend at uni was 18 and engaged to and living with a 25 year old. (I don't know whether their relationship lasted). I totally understand an individual 17 year old feeling that they're not mature enough for a relationship with a 24 year old, but that experience is not universal. Especially in countries less prudish than the US, where the age of consent can be as low as 14.
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mongoose_bite and Tailon have explained to me about antis and it makes a lot of sense that there are young kids who have been brought up by "White Evangelical Conservatism In A Gay Hat". But it worries me a lot. I'm very concerned that all of these kids think that predatory adults only prey on teenagers. Predatory adults prey on other adults too.
And a 24 year old can be raped by a 17 year old.
I was pointing out that actually, a 7 year age gap isn't all that much of a thing depending on what age the two people get together. Like 17 and 24 is definitely iffy (the ages the characters are in the first AA game) but what if the same two people don't get together until 28 and 35 (the ages they are in the sixth game)?
And they're all "IT'S ABOUT PROTECTING TEENS FROM PREDATORY ADULTS".
And I was saying "What if it's the younger person doing the chasing? Don't kinkshame people based on your own personal squick."
But apparently "If they met when one of them was a child and one of them was an adult, that’s using the tactic pedophiles use of “I’ll wait for you.”"
I kissed a 23 year old when I was 16, and we went on one date. (He then proceeded to distance himself from me because he realised I wasn't mature enough for a relationship, even though 16 is the age of consent here.) My friend at uni was 18 and engaged to and living with a 25 year old. (I don't know whether their relationship lasted). I totally understand an individual 17 year old feeling that they're not mature enough for a relationship with a 24 year old, but that experience is not universal. Especially in countries less prudish than the US, where the age of consent can be as low as 14.
mongoose_bite and Tailon have explained to me about antis and it makes a lot of sense that there are young kids who have been brought up by "White Evangelical Conservatism In A Gay Hat". But it worries me a lot. I'm very concerned that all of these kids think that predatory adults only prey on teenagers. Predatory adults prey on other adults too.And a 24 year old can be raped by a 17 year old.
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Nice to see you, though! I was getting worried, hadn't seen you post anywhere in about 18 months iirc.
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(We're not managing to talk, I'm still watching the habits of that relationship take ages to fade including the ones about keeping her alive...)
Life is mostly extensively boring, though I got some longer-term self-care stuff done last year. Don't need blockers any more for example.