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Aging Rock Stars Who Need To Grow Up.
Dec. 16th, 2005 01:39 amI am really, insanely, angry right now with someone who is actually quite famous.
So, my mum has been friends for years with This Guy In A Band. I won't say his name in a public post, but if you know anything about the start of punk in the UK in 1976, you've heard of the band. For ages, I thought she was exaggerating about the level of the relationship, like if I said I was "friends" with Freezepop because I've exchanged a few emails with the band members. But then, I saw the handwritten letters, birthday cards and get well soon cards. She has his phone number, and in fact he used to ring her up a couple of times a month - maybe less often while the band was on tour, but then more often when he was back at home. I've heard the answerphone messages. She used to go round to his house and hang out with him on a Sunday afternoon in the same way that my friends come round here and hang out with me. You know, for all accounts and purposes, a perfectly normal - close, even, friendship.
So now he has this girlfriend. Who is half his age. And she's insanely jealous of any friendship he has with other women - the way I used to be. Except I was like that when I was 20, and she's 30 - the age I am now, pretty much. He really likes her, and thinks she is The One.
OK, so what's she done? Demanded he drops all of his other female friends. And what's he done? Agreed to it.
Weird though it might be, I can sort of vaguely understand her wanting him to drop ex-girlfriends that he's still in touch with. Other young(ish) attractive girls that he might be tempted by. But asking him to drop a woman of almost his own age - who has been a platonic friend for many years and who is married? And him agreeing to it? ( Really seeing red here. )
So, my mum has been friends for years with This Guy In A Band. I won't say his name in a public post, but if you know anything about the start of punk in the UK in 1976, you've heard of the band. For ages, I thought she was exaggerating about the level of the relationship, like if I said I was "friends" with Freezepop because I've exchanged a few emails with the band members. But then, I saw the handwritten letters, birthday cards and get well soon cards. She has his phone number, and in fact he used to ring her up a couple of times a month - maybe less often while the band was on tour, but then more often when he was back at home. I've heard the answerphone messages. She used to go round to his house and hang out with him on a Sunday afternoon in the same way that my friends come round here and hang out with me. You know, for all accounts and purposes, a perfectly normal - close, even, friendship.
So now he has this girlfriend. Who is half his age. And she's insanely jealous of any friendship he has with other women - the way I used to be. Except I was like that when I was 20, and she's 30 - the age I am now, pretty much. He really likes her, and thinks she is The One.
OK, so what's she done? Demanded he drops all of his other female friends. And what's he done? Agreed to it.
Weird though it might be, I can sort of vaguely understand her wanting him to drop ex-girlfriends that he's still in touch with. Other young(ish) attractive girls that he might be tempted by. But asking him to drop a woman of almost his own age - who has been a platonic friend for many years and who is married? And him agreeing to it? ( Really seeing red here. )
