and some more moaning (this time vaguely justified)!

[baratron]

Today I am completely blergh. I have two sources of stress in my life and a really heavy, bloody period that's soaking through sanitary pads at a rate of knots and staining my underwear. Lovely. Also have profoundly achy legs and sore wrists/thumbs - this is normal for my first day of period, but still unpleasant. Waah.

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[rowan-leigh.livejournal.com]

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[baratron.livejournal.com]

In case anyone's wondering about all these "full stop" comments from people in my partnership web, it's a way of saying "I have read your post and don't know exactly what to say but want you to know that I've read it & sympathise."

Anyone is welcome to leave . or *hugs* comments, although I might be surprised if I don't already know you :)

[erik]

Sorry hon.

[trishpiglet.livejournal.com]

this is normal for my first day of period,

I also get the 'might as well strap a bucket between my legs' first day. You have my sympathy!

[barakta]

Sympathies - periods are evil. I have a 'friend' who is writing a menstrual zine about the joys of female menstruation. She keeps popping up and asking everyone if they'll be interviewed about their periods even after we've all refused umpteen times.

She's coming up for the ritual "stfu already" sporking moment I think. Especially if she catches me in fullblown PMT mode ;)

[baratron.livejournal.com]

The joys of menstruation?!

Let me guess - she's one of these "womyn" who believe that menstrual cycles keep us aligned with the Moon Goddess and are the way in which we celebrate our fundamental connectedness with the calendar? And who also celebrated her first period because it meant she was becoming a "womon" and could now embrace the sacred femininity that is Motherhood?

OK, I'm not very good at pretending to be a mad woo-woo person. Being childfree by choice doesn't help either. Even then, I'm not sure of too many female-bodied-people who want children who actually celebrate each menstrual cycle.

I'm tempted to tell you to point your acquaintance at me and I'll explain to her in graphic detail what premenstrual dysphoric disorder (severe PMS) is like, including the number of times I have deliberately or accidentally self-harmed while suffering from it, and the degree of self-loathing and body dysphoria it causes. (I'm glad that I haven't had to deal with it for a while - taking my fucking vitamins and calcium supplements in combination with antidepressants seems to fend it off.)

[baratron.livejournal.com]

Oh. Next time you hit her with a stick, do find out why WASHABLE sanitary towels are evil. Or does she not include those in the list of evil things?

Stupid woman. Her, not you.

[barakta]

Oh I think she approves of washable sanitary towels too. Although last night she was asking something complicated questions about wetwipes and some brand of Always sanitary towels. I can't remember cos I was busy doing something else important instead...

But yes. Indeed.

[lizw.livejournal.com]

Ah. I was going to ask if you were using washables, because I found that my flow was much reduced as soon as I switched to them (much to my surprise - I'd dismissed that as fluffy wishful thinking till it happened to me). I should have realised that with your latex allergy you'd be way ahead of me on that one. I'm sorry you're still having such obnoxious periods.

[ailbhe]

I know two women who rather enjoyed their periods as a reminder that all was working as it should. That was because *all was working as it should*. And both of them were appalled the first - and many subsequent - times they encountered someone with a difficult period.

I almost panicked at the thought of running out of evening primrose oil while on holiday. Luckily I managed to buy some today.

(And not to mention that if you're charting and know when you've ovulated and have been trying for a child for three years, you *cry* when your period comes even if it's *painless*, which is was sometimes).

Every time I ran away from home when I was a teenager, I got a period within two days. And I never made the connection, because I was too screwed up. Bizarre.

[barakta]

Oh I'm totally for charting cycles. I think it is something which should be more encouraged. However my friend would be like those people you mention who cannot handle the fact that some people have really really stressful and horrible effects from their periods.

My older sister who has severe anxiety and other mental health problems has been on depo provera for years. Unfortunately this stops her periods and sends her extra loopy because she found periods reassuring, it gave her a sense of cycle. Unfortunately she's not able to use any other contraceptive method because she knows she's too unreliable. She just knows to have a kid in her current state would be extremely non ideal so she does the depo thing even with the awful effects :(

I'm lucky that my partner usually guesses when I'm being horrible cos of PMS and makes an effort to give me space and not wind me up. My ex used to play on my anxiety and really wind me up when I had PMS - when we split up he admitted to doing this because he thought it was funny... Bastard.

I don't think young people are educated about the actual effects of periods other than a 'bit of pain'. They aren't taught that PMS isn't just someone being cranky, but can be very very frightning and confusing to experience, iinducing people to do things that they otherwise wouldn't do - as you point out. My mum used to have terrible depression which was eventually linked to her hormone cycle, and eventually linked to her breast cancer.

Hell doctors are pretty bad, I found it almost impossible to get painkillers as a teenager and was told that I was making it up. Eventually I went on the pill for 5 months which fucked my head, but sorted my periods out a fair bit and they've never got as bad since. I'm lucky I have stayed with the university GP where the nurses are amazing, and always offer really helpful advice about period issues as well as contraception/family planning.

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[trinker.livejournal.com]

Much sympathy!

[nitoda]

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[ludy]

meep, sympathy (literallly - i've got my period too)