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baratronRichard & I are getting married on 1st February 2012. It's a Wednesday.
I need to write a general FAQ about the wedding, but here's some basic information for now.
We've given up on the idea of having the sort of wedding we actually want, and instead we're splitting it into two parts:
1) a tiny legal wedding with as few family members as possible, plus a handful of our closest friends to stop us murdering any of my family. Less than 20 people, simple civil service, meal at local restaurant.
2) a much bigger commitment ceremony, some months later (could be as late as 1st August 2013, depending on how badly hotel & flight prices have increased due to the Olympics) with many friends plus a handful of family members of our generation. Followed by a party with lots of cake, music, gaming area, and a chocolate fountain.
Essentially, we're doing something traditional with/for the oldies, and something untraditional for us.
The legal wedding will be in Kingston, but all I can say about the commitment ceremony is that it'll be in or near London.
In lieu of presents, we want friends with spare money to donate it so that friends who are broke can afford to come - like a convention fan fund or BiCon equality fund. The only people who will know who's given or received money will be me & Richard, and frankly we already know which of our friends have spare or no money anyway.
There is only one thing I need to say at this point: will anyone be offended not to be invited to the legal ceremony?
[Poll #1792971]
Note that with regard to the commitment ceremony, there is no option for "I can't come because it's too far away". If you want to come, we will find a way to get you here.
Just so that everyone is informed now and there are no misunderstandings later, we don't want any young children who might make noise at the commitment ceremony. Children who are able to sit quietly with a book are welcome, and children of all ages will be welcomed at the party.
I need to write a general FAQ about the wedding, but here's some basic information for now.
We've given up on the idea of having the sort of wedding we actually want, and instead we're splitting it into two parts:
1) a tiny legal wedding with as few family members as possible, plus a handful of our closest friends to stop us murdering any of my family. Less than 20 people, simple civil service, meal at local restaurant.
2) a much bigger commitment ceremony, some months later (could be as late as 1st August 2013, depending on how badly hotel & flight prices have increased due to the Olympics) with many friends plus a handful of family members of our generation. Followed by a party with lots of cake, music, gaming area, and a chocolate fountain.
Essentially, we're doing something traditional with/for the oldies, and something untraditional for us.
The legal wedding will be in Kingston, but all I can say about the commitment ceremony is that it'll be in or near London.
In lieu of presents, we want friends with spare money to donate it so that friends who are broke can afford to come - like a convention fan fund or BiCon equality fund. The only people who will know who's given or received money will be me & Richard, and frankly we already know which of our friends have spare or no money anyway.
There is only one thing I need to say at this point: will anyone be offended not to be invited to the legal ceremony?
[Poll #1792971]
Note that with regard to the commitment ceremony, there is no option for "I can't come because it's too far away". If you want to come, we will find a way to get you here.
Just so that everyone is informed now and there are no misunderstandings later, we don't want any young children who might make noise at the commitment ceremony. Children who are able to sit quietly with a book are welcome, and children of all ages will be welcomed at the party.
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Date: 2011-11-07 07:26 am (UTC)I got married wearing black leather pants and some black top that I can't recall. (I was going to get a nice dress for our party, though. I like dressing up and was going to try to use it as an excuse to buy a spiffy corset top.) At any rate - use it as a reason to buy a nice dress, totally. If you don't find anything you love, you have a back up plan. :)
My only thing with makeup is remember there will probably be photos, and sometimes make up does help there. (Or make things worse, depending on the makeup. :) ) So that's something to keep in mind and maybe do a test run in similar lighting. (I am assuming that any traditionalists wanting a Proper Wedding in the first place are going to want a Proper Wedding Photo of some type also.)
You may have to reconsider the fruitcake, too, if part of it is for Traditionalists in the family - when Nephsis got married she had a fruitcake but also got regular cake (sheet cake from Costco actually, I think - not like anyone could tell once it was cut up, and the fruitcake one was all pretty for display and photos) so people could have what they wanted, because they wanted to skip the fruitcake but there was a horrible fuss. I imagine one can probably get fruitcake cupcake things if you want to stick with cupcakes, though. :)
If you're going the registry office route I seem to recall they had a little booklet thing they gave us when we went to arrange to get married, with tips and approved readings and things. Might be handy to get your hands on one to use as a checklist. Stay away from wedding forums online, though, unless you have a lot of 'people are stupid' tolerance. People get wound up about seriously dumb things. :)
Hopefully, there will not be any Major Events on either of your days, as it does rather mess with the whole experience. (Plus, celebrating anniversaries just becomes very strange.)