Things, stuff, energy, people, blah.

[baratron]

Thought-provoking stuff I have read recently:
Repeating the obvious: energy levels, by redbird.
can we still be friends?, by the_siobhan.

Both posts explain thoughts & feelings I'm having at the moment, but in a much more coherent way than I'd've managed.

Also, someone called me tonight & suggested I should set up a "moan filter" on my lj, so people don't have to read it unless they want to. I'm loath to do that, because I only post friends-only if there's a need to (like, if I am already feeling afraid or attacked and need to know who can access the post), and I think it's useful to post publicly about health stuff, so other people who have got diagnosed with the same stuff can Google & find someone to talk to about it. However, if a lot of the "no one's reading my journal" feeling is coming from the fact that no one's reading it because they're sick of the moaning, or scared of the spikiness (have I really been that bad-tempered the past few weeks? I guess I must've been), I might have to.

Comments

[elfgeek.livejournal.com]

I read your LJ, but sometimes I'd rather not say anything than risk coming across as patronising/complementing it with a personal story or repeating what other ppl have said.
but yeah, you could use an lj-cut if it makes you feel more comfortable but you don't want to filter.
just a thought: filtering is something a lot of ppl, including myself, primarily do to protect themselves, not others (i.e. they don't ask, they choose who goes on a filter and who doesn't).

[baratron.livejournal.com]

That's how I use filters when I do use them - I filter in the people that I feel safe reading a particular entry. Things that are filtered tend to be intensely personal, to the extent that while (in most cases) I wouldn't mind everyone on my list knowing it, there are certain people that I don't trust to say something helpful. Some of my friends & acquaintances have a habit of getting hold of the wrong end of the stick, and if it's a particularly painful stick, it might hurt me a lot to get prodded with the wrong end. If that tedious metaphor made any sense :)

I *like* "me too" comments. I like *hugs* and even blank comments, which to me mean "I have read this and I have nothing coherent to say, but I wanted you to know that I've read it."

[elfgeek.livejournal.com]

I sometimes cringe at the thought of just typing *hugs* because a lot of ppl find it trite - but I'll keep in mind that you feel slightly differently about this! :-)