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baratronRichard & I are getting married on 1st February 2012. It's a Wednesday.
I need to write a general FAQ about the wedding, but here's some basic information for now.
We've given up on the idea of having the sort of wedding we actually want, and instead we're splitting it into two parts:
1) a tiny legal wedding with as few family members as possible, plus a handful of our closest friends to stop us murdering any of my family. Less than 20 people, simple civil service, meal at local restaurant.
2) a much bigger commitment ceremony, some months later (could be as late as 1st August 2013, depending on how badly hotel & flight prices have increased due to the Olympics) with many friends plus a handful of family members of our generation. Followed by a party with lots of cake, music, gaming area, and a chocolate fountain.
Essentially, we're doing something traditional with/for the oldies, and something untraditional for us.
The legal wedding will be in Kingston, but all I can say about the commitment ceremony is that it'll be in or near London.
In lieu of presents, we want friends with spare money to donate it so that friends who are broke can afford to come - like a convention fan fund or BiCon equality fund. The only people who will know who's given or received money will be me & Richard, and frankly we already know which of our friends have spare or no money anyway.
There is only one thing I need to say at this point: will anyone be offended not to be invited to the legal ceremony?
[Poll #1792971]
Note that with regard to the commitment ceremony, there is no option for "I can't come because it's too far away". If you want to come, we will find a way to get you here.
Just so that everyone is informed now and there are no misunderstandings later, we don't want any young children who might make noise at the commitment ceremony. Children who are able to sit quietly with a book are welcome, and children of all ages will be welcomed at the party.
I need to write a general FAQ about the wedding, but here's some basic information for now.
We've given up on the idea of having the sort of wedding we actually want, and instead we're splitting it into two parts:
1) a tiny legal wedding with as few family members as possible, plus a handful of our closest friends to stop us murdering any of my family. Less than 20 people, simple civil service, meal at local restaurant.
2) a much bigger commitment ceremony, some months later (could be as late as 1st August 2013, depending on how badly hotel & flight prices have increased due to the Olympics) with many friends plus a handful of family members of our generation. Followed by a party with lots of cake, music, gaming area, and a chocolate fountain.
Essentially, we're doing something traditional with/for the oldies, and something untraditional for us.
The legal wedding will be in Kingston, but all I can say about the commitment ceremony is that it'll be in or near London.
In lieu of presents, we want friends with spare money to donate it so that friends who are broke can afford to come - like a convention fan fund or BiCon equality fund. The only people who will know who's given or received money will be me & Richard, and frankly we already know which of our friends have spare or no money anyway.
There is only one thing I need to say at this point: will anyone be offended not to be invited to the legal ceremony?
[Poll #1792971]
Note that with regard to the commitment ceremony, there is no option for "I can't come because it's too far away". If you want to come, we will find a way to get you here.
Just so that everyone is informed now and there are no misunderstandings later, we don't want any young children who might make noise at the commitment ceremony. Children who are able to sit quietly with a book are welcome, and children of all ages will be welcomed at the party.
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Date: 2011-11-07 03:25 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2011-11-07 05:40 am (UTC)Seriously, we've been Going To Get Married for at least the past six years - I remember reading about
Also, it's amazing how despite being an empowered bisexual feminist, the urge for fluffy white meringue dress and Big Church Wedding persists at the back of my mind. That's never been what I've wanted - so why am I having to fight back urges for it now? Most odd.
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Date: 2011-11-07 07:30 am (UTC)That said, Neph and I were always of the opinion that when we had our big Do, if we wanted to do anything a bit over the top (big cake, fancy venue, nice dress, whatever) that was the time - how many other chances in life do you get to throw a really ridiculous party, you know? Might as well have fun celebrating. :)
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Date: 2011-11-08 02:50 am (UTC)Although, being slightly more organised and/or practical than the guy who did it back at whatever Minicon that was, we'll put the ooblek in a paddling pool which can be thrown out afterwards, rather than in a hotel bathtub which would need to be cleaned out ;)