A poll about manners.

[baratron]

Someone at work is really getting on my nerves. After a "conversation" with her this evening, I decided to come home and write this poll. In the questions where I talk about a random co-worker, I mean someone that you have no connection with apart from working at the same place. When I talk about a friend, I mean someone that you do have some kind of interest in or connection with, someone that you care about for specific reasons, rather than just because they're another human being.


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I'll be interested in people's answers. I think some of these situations are more clear-cut than others. Feel free to explain your reasoning in comments.

Comments

[barakta]

I've never really had a job in that kind of environment so I've not filled in the poll, but I have to say I don't like people shortening my name.

I guess my name is complicated cos legally I am Natalie, but I haven't used that in a long time, I started using Natalya about 1997 era and its the name I now prefer (I will be legalising this when I can be bothered). I guess its partially my own fault for changing the way I like to be called over the last few years. I never used to mind being called Nat as a kid, but I didn't let ppl at 6th form college call me Nat, and now that I live with someone called Nat its just plain confusing.


I will answer to Natalie cos it is technically correct as much as I hate it, but when I change my name legally I'll expect people to start remembering that I am Natalya. I have become a lot more anti being called Natalie in the last 18 months, not helped by my Dad's girlfriend having a neice called Nathalie and the constant comparisons to this person I haven't really ever met. I don't like my dad's girlf very much, and she is constantly going on about how her middle name is Natalie, and that this is somehow a good thing.... Fneh.

Natalya isn't that much different, but it makes the difference. Not to mention I get to nuke the middle name which I have always hated, it isn't me and bugs me. hehehe I even have my mother's blessing which is appreciated cos I do respect her and wouldn't want to hurt her feelings.

I guess if you introduce yourself as X people will generally follow that and if they change your name in a way which you don't like and you ask nicely that they don't then they should respect that. I know sometimes people will shorten names because they couldn't remember if you were just being formal when you introduced yourself, or being 'correct'.

I think the shortening can work the other way, my girlf is called kim and sometimes people insist on calling her kimberly, and refusing to accept that her name is not and never has been kimberly....

Oh and a final thought, do you have friends/aquaintances who have specific capitalisation for their names? I know quite a few people who don't capitalise their names by preference....

Interesting post

Natalya