baratron: (bi_pride)
Who is going? And who wants to share a flat with me?

Proviso: I need an accessible room/bathroom which may reduce the number of humans that can be accommodated within the flat.
baratron: (bi_pride)
So my friend [livejournal.com profile] kshandra and her husband [livejournal.com profile] gridlore want to go on holiday for their 25th wedding anniversary. But it's going to be difficult because Doug has worst health than me. I mean, seriously, the poor guy has had cancer twice (plus another malignant growth that was small enough to be removed by a dermatologist) and has suffered horrible side-effects from the anti-cancer drugs which saved his life. Like his jawbone started rotting away and his teeth fell out so he couldn't eat, and then he got a potassium deficiency and almost died, and he has no spleen so he can't fight infection... And it really says something when you're talking about your friend's husband's bad health to your other friends, and the list of problems is so long that you actually forgot that he'd had a stroke.

Anyway, they are great people, if perpetually short of money, and they deserve the chance to have something fun happen to them for once. So they want to go to Istanbul. It won't be cheap - the travel insurance alone will be a small fortune - but they have friends and friends of friends who can help. Even US $5 will help. If you're able to give then here's the link, if you can't then would you consider boosting the signal? I've known Kirsten for something like 13 or 14 years, I can personally vouch for the situation being genuine.

Also, some of my friends have written a book. Purple Prose is all about Bisexuality in Britain. I'm sure a lot of it will be relevant to bisexuals outside of Britain, too. It's only £5 for an e-book or £15 for an e-book and paperback, so please buy one if you can! The closing date for the funding is 11th November.
baratron: (bi_pride)
Happy Bi Visibility Day to all my bisexual friends!

I remember when I was 21, a random person on the internet told me there was no such thing as "bisexual", it was just a phase I was going through before settling on gay or straight. Well, I'm now 38, and I haven't settled yet :)
baratron: (bi_pride)
So, apparently there was a bisexual man who couldn't come to BiCon this year even though it was in Leeds, where he lives, and even though he has mental health problems and would have really benefited from our supportive, disability-friendly community. That's because the Home Office has thrown him into a detention centre and are in the process of trying to deport him back to Jamaica, where he originates from. Even though his mother, partner, and baby are all here and sending him away from them denies his basic human right to a family life.

Apparently the judge in the court case doesn't believe he's bisexual, because his partner is a woman.

Y'know what? The partner I live with is a man. I'm still fucking bisexual. I would still be in fucking danger if I were to end up in a country that doesn't like queers.

I don't know if Jamaica is dangerous (although the comments on this Jamaican newspaper article are quite telling), and that's not the part that makes me angry. It's the fact that the judge has decided bisexuality isn't real, that if someone's long-term partner is of the opposite gender to themselves then they must be lying about having same-sex attractions.

That is just not right. Bisexuality is as real as any other sexual orientation. I happen to have a long-term relationship with a man, but I also very much like women and genderqueer people and non-binary gendered people. My partners and ex-partners and potential new partners are of a variety of genders and biological sexes, and that's just how I'm wired. If you look at me as a woman married to a man and declare that I must be straight, then you're eroding a big part of my history and my future. That would make me angry.

But you know what? Go ahead and do it if you want to, it won't actually harm me. My life isn't in danger, because I was born in the UK and have British citizenship. This poor sod's life is, because he wasn't, and our supposedly so-tolerant country can't accept that bisexuals are actually a thing.

I shall be writing to Theresa May as soon as I have acquired sufficient spoons. In the meantime, please sign this petition in support of Orashia Edwards, and if you can afford it, send some money in support of his legal costs.
baratron: (flasks)
So, I've been wanting to get a Mirena coil fitted for a while. I like the permanence of my copper coil, but I don't like the way it aggravates my periods. I've always been extremely reluctant to use a hormonal method of contraception because I have extremely bad PMS (premenstrual dysphoric disorder) - indeed, whether I am officially bipolar or "just" have violent reactions to fluctuations in my hormone levels is something that neither I nor my medical professionals have ever worked out. But the Mirena delivers the hormones directly into one's uterus, and as a result may be much more suitable for women with severe PMS than the Pill. More importantly, it may also offer protection against endometrial cancer, which runs in my family.

I discussed the Mirena coil with my GP a few months ago, and she went through all the pros and cons with me then. But I have "a thing" about not liking my private parts to be seen by the same doctor who I see for everything else. Y'know? I like one doctor who sees me clothed and a different one who sees me naked. So for years I've been going to the only evening Family Planning Clinic in my local area. I like it because it runs from 6.30-8.30pm, meaning I can usually manage to get there, and the doctors they have there are actual gynaecologists, meaning that all they do is look at women's private parts and mine is therefore not very exciting.

So yesterday I finally acquired enough spoons to call the Clinic and I got asked a number of questions by the nurse. Cut-tagging this simply to avoid setting off work filters, not actually private at all. )
baratron: (bi_pride)
I'm not feeling hugely well today, so I'm not sure that anything I planned to do will happen. But I thought I might manage a bit of 5 minute activism, and then I can feel as though I've achieved something with my day. Oh yes.

So, with that in mind, will you all please visit this site and vote for Jen Yockney as "Homo" Hero!

I've known Jen since 1999. She really is one of the mainstays of the British bi community. As well as running the Manchester group Biphoria, she also edits Bi Community News, runs workshops at BiCon, helps out at Pride including one not even in her area, organises BiMedia, and lately is revamping the Bisexual Visibility Day site.

Voting for Jen is a way to get B & T issues recognised by a group that still only uses L & G in its name. It's also a way to show how many bisexuals and allies are out there. You don't have to vote in any of the other categories, although you can if you wish (I certainly did).

It doesn't matter what country you live in. Although the Lesbian & Gay Federation is based in North-West England, all you need to give is your name and email address to prove you're a unique person. If you wish to say where you heard about the Homo Hero awards, "from a friend" or "on the internet" will do.

It takes less than 5 minutes. Please vote.
baratron: (bi_pride)
Are any of my friends travelling from London to Brighton this Saturday for Pride? Or wanting to meet up in Brighton?

I will need to somehow get myself from being entirely nocturnal to being awake in the morning, which will be "interesting", but other than that, I want to be there in time to see the Parade. I seem to remember that arriving about 12 noon is plenty early enough since it never starts on time.
baratron: (bi_pride)
The bits of BiCon that were Bisexual, Spending Time with Friends, and Edinburgh were all awesome. I had really good food (not least of all [livejournal.com profile] nitoda lemon cake!), lots of time with people I love and don't see enough, awesome gaming, some very useful activist discussions, and a few interesting workshops. Only a few because my chronic fatigue played up something chronic (ha ha) and I spent most of the mornings and some of the afternoons asleep. Of course, as is typical with these things, there were some people I really like who I said little more than "Hello" to, but that always happens. Next time.

The bits of BiCon that were Sharing the Venue with Other People were crap. Bad enough that the team ended up calling the police to report repeated instances of hate crime from other groups on site. That is all I am saying in public, not least of all because 95% of the stories are not mine to tell.

The weather in Edinburgh was glorious - mid 20s, quite dry, and light until almost 10pm. I have returned to London to find it over 33 degrees C (94.3 deg F). THIRTY-THREE. This may be a normal temperature for some parts of the world in summer, but it is nothing short of freakish for here. It's so hot that I can't wear the wrist supports that I'm needing right now, because they make me sweat so much that the skin under my wrists simply peels off. Ouch. And I really miss that extra hour of daylight. Ah well.
baratron: (bi_pride)
Hooray (so far). Still got the Lords to go. Actually, still got A LONG WAY to go: we're at the first 2 on this diagram.

David Lammy ♥. You may need tissues.
baratron: (bi_pride)
I realised last night, I'm on page 37 of my novel and there hasn't been a single female character yet. Not one with actual dialogue. One's mentioned in passing and the other is a horse - I hardly think this counts. The only exception would be if you don't know that I Only Write Slash and assume that the first-person narrator is a woman. Damn!

This is doubly annoying since it's fanfiction, so I'm stuck using the characters who exist in canon. In the scenes with the Blades (the Emperor's bodyguards), I've tried to use the female ones, but there are only two of those. Even worse - and for this I really am a bad feminist who won't be getting any biscuits, my original character Alix moans about a couple of female Mages Guildhall heads. Both of them are incredibly annoying & incompetent in the game: one, who only cares about her own research, not about the welfare of her fellow mages; and another, who has virtually no magical ability whatsoever and only got the job because of who she knew.

This really sucks and I don't know how to fix it. There is a female alchemist, and Oleta, the country's best Restoration trainer, who both have to be written into the chapter I couldn't face writing - oh, and a woman town guard. That's about Chapter 3 of this, if the novel was structured like that. Oleta comes up again in the second-to-last chapter when Alix is completely broken following [MAJOR SPOILER]. There's also a female archivist in the Mages Guild Library who has a part somewhere around the middle. Apart from those, I'd be adding women for the sake of adding women. Hmm.

In other news, I will be at neither the bisexual activists' weekend nor Birmingham BiFest. My body is beyond broken right now. In fact, I've had so much time for writing due to being completely unable to sleep because of pain :/ Right now I can walk about 5 m, and it's fricking agony. Dragging my arse into College today for the first time in two weeks, then home to collapse with the laptop. Urgh.
baratron: (test tube)
NASA finds Cookie Monster on surface of Mercury. Awesome :)

Parody of anti-gay pamphlets offers detailed, behind-the-scenes view of how liars misuse real citations. Very interesting, and Relevant To Our Interests.

Sexist bastardJames Watson on The Double Helix and his changing view of Rosalind Franklin. I still want to spit at him, but I suppose he comes across as slightly less objectionable when all the evidence is considered. Bah.

More than you maybe needed to know about the echidna. Warning: Contains echidna penis. Once seen, can never be un-seen!

Protein art. This is also Relevant to My Interests.

OMG, baby octopodes! *hyperventilates with Teh Cute!*
baratron: (bi_pride)
Tomorrow is, variously, International Celebrate Bisexuality Day or Bi Visibility Day.

I couldn't decide whether to go to the London BiFete or the Brighton Evening With Cake, so I'm doing both!

I will be at BiFete with my friend Lou from 2-3.30ish, and then at the Brighton Evening from 6-8pm. And on trains the rest of the time.

I have discovered that First Capital Connect are actually competent, and were able to book my assisted travel despite my journey consisting of three separate train companies. This is so amazing that I might have to die of shock.
baratron: (bi_pride)
I had an interesting lesson in bisexual invisibility earlier today. I discovered that Jim Parsons, the actor who plays Sheldon on the Big Bang Theory, is in a same-sex relationship in real life. His partner's name is Todd Spiewak and they've been together about four years. Now, I always thought that Sheldon pinged my gaydar - although the character's asexual, he "sounds gay"; and it turns out that Jim talks exactly the same way in interviews. (Although not quite as socially awkward).

But there I am, a proud bisexual since I was 11 years old, assuming he's gay - when he's not out as anything! It's not a secret that he's in a same-sex relationship (he thanked his partner in his Emmy acceptance speech in 2010), but he's not explicitly said what his sexual orientation is. All we know is that he lives with and loves a man. But there I was assuming he's gay!

One relationship is not enough data to assume someone's sexual orientation. As a scientist, and a bisexual, I should know better.

WTF, body!

Nov. 25th, 2011 09:56 pm
baratron: (sleepy)
Seeing that I have to be on a train at 8.49 am tomorrow, I "cleverly" took a sleeping pill at a reasonable hour last night in the hope of waking up at a sensible time today. It's Zopiclone, the only sleeping pill which has ever worked for me, and it's supposed to knock you out for 8 hours. I set several alarms as well.

I then proceeded to SLEEP THROUGH all of those alarms and not wake up properly until 6 pm. So much for getting myself onto "being awake in the morning" time! It's now 9.45 pm and I'm still feeling incredibly wobbly, sleepy and spoon-depleted, despite having eaten properly and taken vitamin pills.

WHO ATE ALL MY SPOONS?

Btw, Richard has found the ultimate cat-herder for when bisexuals do need herding. As seen in several blogs, newspapers and even TV: Fenton the labrador (language not work-safe).
baratron: (bi_pride)
Well, I've just booked my train (*grumble* about increased prices when you have to book close to the day because you're really not sure if your health is going to hold up), so I'm coming to the Bi Activist Weekend. I'm sure that I'm supposed to be telling someone that I'm going, but who?

WHO IS ACTUALLY IN CHARGE OF THE CAT-HERDING?! :D

Oh yes, these are the trains:
09:55 STP arriving LEI 11:02 Sat 26th Nov
17:08 LEI arriving STP 18:34 Sun 27th Nov

I'll be in the wheelchair space on the train, wherever that is (I can tell you in detail tomorrow when I've picked up my tickets), so come and join me.
baratron: (bi_pride)
So, who's going to the Hackney Bi Celebration tonight or Bi Visibility Evening tomorrow?

I'm planning to do both, but if I flake on either it'll be tonight, as Hackney is all the way north whereas Gower Street is just round the corner from college (where I need to go to drop off a form).
baratron: (bi_pride)
Happy International Celebrate Bisexuality Day, everyone! For some reason it's called Bi Visibility Day in the UK - not sure whose idea that was (though, given that I know virtually all of the loud bi activists in the country, it was probably someone I know). Here's the list of UK events.

Unfortunately, I'm not sure if I'll be able to make it to any of them due to being chronically behind with my work :( Though if I do, it's a tossup between the London event at the Pembury Tavern (lots of people I know will be there, but it's hard to get to) versus the Brighton event (will have an [livejournal.com profile] artremis, almost easier for me to get to than north London). I always was bad at this kind of decision...
baratron: (lego)
I have reached a stage of ARGH with my work, so I'm going to post all of the links I have cluttering up my "working" Firefox profile :)

From [livejournal.com profile] epi_lj: Hollywood's Racism Exposed ... by Lego. Interesting.

From [livejournal.com profile] skibbley: New bisexual IKEA ad airs in Austria. It's amusing... apart from continuing to propagate the "bisexuals are cheaters"/"can't be monogamous" stereotype. Or does it? Maybe the boyfriend simply doesn't like to be in the flat when his partner is having sex with his girlfriend!

From Shana Logic: IKEA Let Loose a Herd of 100 Cats Into Store to 'See What Happens'. If you're really interested, the ad was shot in the branch of IKEA we used to go to when I was a kid (Wembley). We don't go there any more because there's one much closer to us now (Croydon).

From Beetlebau on #soc.bi: Night of the Living Trekkies (book trailer). Books have trailers now?

Finally, in case you haven't seen this anywhere else, and care: the Complete Pokedex for Pokemon Black & White.

*hits Refresh a few more times to see if anyone's replied to my message asking for help yet*
baratron: (bi_pride)
[livejournal.com profile] adjectivemarcus wrote an article about bisexuality in yesterday's Guardian (a national British newspaper) - Bisexuals: putting the B back in LGBT. Currently it's on the front page of the newspaper's web site as "Most commented on" article.

It is well worth reading, and I'm rather pleased to know Marcus!

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